We have a step-by-step guide to your first anal, how to fall in love with these games in one of the most exciting areas of our body. How to prepare for a paralyzing orgasm that will make your tailbone explode and your thighs buckle with pleasure?
Anal sex is one of the most common fantasies, and famous adult films offer this topic in abundance. Getting your lover into your bottom hole is the dream of many men. We will now show you both how to make your first anal sex a new universe that you will love to dive into again and again. Each a little differently, but both perhaps the same.
Anal games are one big taboo. Concerns about hygiene, pain, or sexual identity. Throw these prejudices aside, just like many satisfied couples who enjoy these practices to the fullest. If anal appeals to you, try it for yourself!
How to prepare for your first anal sex
Relaxation and unwinding: Just enjoy!
Before you dive in, insist on two-fold preparation—mental and physical. These games require more planning and communication than regular forms of sexual activity. If you're not tactful, anal can be painful, dangerous, or even traumatic.
A bad or insensitive first experience is often the reason you don't try it again later. Many people have given up on this fun practice simply because of a bad first experience.
The anal opening is surrounded by two sets of muscles. These muscles open two sphincters, the internal and the external. The external sphincter can be relaxed and opened quite easily. The internal sphincter is located deeper, about an inch or two further away.
In other words, the deeper your partner tries to go, the harder it can be and the more time it takes. However, with proper preparation and training in anal stretching, you can get there easily.
Mental preparation
During anal sex, you reach the depths of the entire pelvic area around the coccyx, which is richly supplied with nerves, just like the anus itself. The idea of letting someone in that deep is in itself very confidential, intimate and exciting.
As part of your mental preparation, focus on what is coming. You will feel very electrifying sensations in the buttocks area, right on the anus, in its delicate surroundings, but the deeper your partner is, the more pleasure and sensations will go deep into the pelvis and along the spine. At the deepest point, theoretically, pleasure can connect with that which springs from clitoral stimulation and there is an anal orgasm in the world. That's worth a sin, right?
Patience is the key. Opening yourself up to the possibility of revealing the individual layers of enjoyment of exceeding your own limits, of something so different and very intimate.
To make it great, communicate with each other, especially so that neither of you pushes beyond your limits. Forget about the vigorous porn penetrations, the reality is completely different. It definitely doesn't have to work the first time...
Hot tip for gentlemen!
We will now advise you on a perhaps slightly surprising method of knowing exactly what women feel. Try it yourself! There is no better way to experience the gradual release and sensations that a woman feels during anal sex than to play with your own hole!
It's no joke, men love this! They have a prostate, which in a way allows them to have even more intense experiences than women. But we girls can also play ourselves and find out what it's all about and how the individual parts of the sphincters relax in pleasure.
Or we can help men uncover them, right?
Hygiene First: Physical Preparation
The most common concerns are about hygiene, but trust me, it won't be that hot, that is... brown... The rectum is in about the same condition as the urethra. Our waste products just pass through it on their way to the world, at other times it is a relatively clean mucous membrane.
Still, don't neglect proper hygiene. For some individuals, a simple and shallow cleaning is enough. In that case, it is enough to go to the bathroom 30-60 minutes before the act.
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Empty your bowels and wash your anal area with regular soap and warm water. Unscented, hypoallergenic baby wipes are also a great alternative. It's a good idea to keep these wipes by your bed. You can reach for them whenever you want to switch from anal to vaginal play. Also keep some lubricant by your bed, it's handy.
Never let your significant other go from anal to vaginal without cleaning, because the anus is a haven for various bacteria that have nowhere else to go. To fully prevent the transmission of infection, you and your partner need to clean each time you change openings.
For a deep cleansing, use a water enema 1-2 hours beforehand. Rinse only the last 15-20 centimeters of the rectum, there is no need to go deeper.
First steps: Take action!
Does excitement equal real excitement about things to come? Great, it's time!
Always respect the woman's pace: Penetration is about many stages. If the preparation is with a finger, an anal toy, something small, the partner can also enter the slippery kingdom and soft openness.
A really hard penis can definitely handle it, but it's better to let your partner do the first experiments with how it actually looks and works with his finger.
You have to be completely relaxed. The sphincters open gradually, in parts, always at the moment when they feel safe and excited under the pressure of the new. Finally, it's time for the male movements... the first ones should be gentle, of course.
The importance of lubrication
The anus has no natural lubrication, so use a lubricant for a more pleasant and safe penetration. Use it also when first trying anal toys such as an anal vibrator, butt plugs, anal dildos or balls.
This is a great time for self-exploration, so you know what you're getting into! Try it alone!
The anal vibrator will give you a proper and pleasant deep massage and perfectly prepare you for penetration by your partner. The butt plug is great for stimulating the butt and thanks to its shape you can be sure that it will never slip out.
Anything you insert into your butt needs to have a wider, flat base so that nothing can slide all the way in. Unlike the vagina, where nothing gets lost or you can push it out… the anus has no end and the sphincters can trap a toy very quickly, requiring a doctor to help you.
How to free up your butthole for pleasurable pleasure?
You have to feel completely safe and excited. Otherwise, it just won't work. The more you look forward to it, the more excited you are, the greater the chance that you will eventually like anal sex.
It is also said that a woman will only let a man she truly trust back in, and there is a lot of truth to that!
And gentlemen... When a woman gradually opens up, you reveal her desires, then she will be happy to accept something bigger in the back... But how can you relax as much as possible and get this area fired up?
The overall excitement is about the head and touches in the right places
As you can probably guess, the right mood and excitement are the foundation. Without a head that craves a proper penetration in the ass, it simply won't work.
A tip for your partner is even hotter… Stimulating the clitoris will relax this area not only before, but also during penetration. This will automatically relax the muscles, all those circular muscles in the pelvis, as the vagina relaxes. You can imagine these muscles as if you were pulling the string on a cloth bag… and there are more than one such bag mouth out there, so… time and patience.
It may seem surprising, but anal sex can lead to amazing and unforgettable orgasms. Some women describe anal climax as a clitoral orgasm. They feel a pulsation and pleasant contractions in the area around the sphincter.
Others describe it as an incredibly deep and many times stronger orgasm than a vaginal one. Of course, this is an individual matter, it depends on many factors.
Did you know that some toys can do the work for your partner so he can focus on other parts of your body?
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Let's summarize it.
- First, explore your anal opening. Gently massage the anal area. The muscles will relax slightly and the subsequent insertion will be easier.
- Insert your fingers inside this area and discover what is more and less pleasant for you.
- If you like this experience, great! You can also get anal toys such as an anal vibrator, anal plugs, anal dildos or balls.
- An anal vibrator will give you a proper and pleasant deep massage and perfectly prepare you for penetration by your partner. An anal plug is great for stimulating the butt and thanks to its shape you can be sure that it will never slip out
Which anal toy will be your favorite?
Getting an exciting butt plug or jewelry is a good start... Curiosity and excitement start to build. Various smaller butt plugs are suitable for the first attempts at penetration... and if they are cute, they will be even more tempting, you as a girl will definitely appreciate that.
Of course, your partner's cuddly finger will also suffice, two fingers, three... but an aid in the form of an anatomically shaped plug will definitely fit better, just making love to the vagina with the feeling of a full butt of an anal plug is an experience that will excite you considerably.
To the desire to have your man's penis down there. Dildos for use in the vagina and anus are downright cute:
Or anal chains that will entice an inexperienced ass and show how exciting it is.
Pleasure for both – vibrating anal toys
As we said, your partner might like to try it too. Because what would you appreciate more than when your partner goes for the same thing… right? Honestly, how do you see it? If your partner tried it, you probably wouldn’t hesitate to try it too, right? Couples vibrators or even anal vibrators for men with prostate stimulation are perfect for such games.
So we've opened a double back door, man! But hey, you can start with this, why not? By the way, check out Eros' hits in this area, always something new!
Anatomy of the A-spot: Orgasm in the Butt
It may seem surprising, but anal sex can lead to amazing and unforgettable orgasms. Some women describe anal climax as a clitoral orgasm. They feel a pulsation and pleasant contractions in the area around the sphincter. For other women, it triggers full-body orgasms or strong vaginal orgasms.
It is simply a very sensitive area and it always depends on how and where you are aroused, what muscles, nerves and experiences the whole action connects with. In addition, we have a special nerve that connects the anal area and the clitoris.
How to do it? Simultaneous stimulation of the vagina, clitoris, and anus is said to be a 100% surefire recipe. Moreover, this orgasm is often multiple.
Anal orgasm is the result of sexual stimulation of the nerves in and around the anus. It is said that just like the G-spot, we are also blessed with an A-spot. This pleasure spot is located deep inside the vagina between the cervix and the bladder.
With proper anal penetration, the A-spot can be stimulated indirectly through the anus. Discover, enjoy and immerse yourself in the endless pleasure that anal sex brings!
Anal sex during pregnancy
How to have anal sex during pregnancy? Definitely more gently, with more thorough preparation. And although you love sex, it can easily become uncomfortable at this time and you'll want to skip it for a while.
Pregnancy sometimes plays more with the butt area than with the vagina. Hemorrhoids, anal fissures, or just plain hypersensitivity, because the baby presses on all the lower organs.
Not every situation recommends having anal sex during pregnancy. One such situation is if you have a placenta previa, as anal sex could damage the placenta.
Last but not least, anal sex should not be performed if you or your partner have been diagnosed with any sexually transmitted infection. Anal sex increases the risk of transmitting sexually transmitted diseases.
Hemorrhoids and anal sex
It is clear that the combination of hemorrhoids and anal sex can be very unpleasant and painful. In addition, anal sex can cause bleeding and, in the most extreme cases, severe blood loss. If you suffer from hemorrhoids, anal sex is not the right choice for you.
Finger stimulation with plenty of lubricant can be a good alternative that will fill you with endless pleasure. Gentle, affectionate, which when combined with vaginal and clitoral play, can result in a stormy orgasm.
Anal sex has never been shown to cause hemorrhoids. However, if you already have them (for example, during pregnancy), anal play can make them worse. If you experience itching, stinging, or bleeding, wait until your hemorrhoids heal before having anal sex. If you don't have these problems, try anal sex with extra lubrication. If it doesn't make things worse, it's fine.
I want it in the ass! This is just the beginning, my dears…
We are entering an erotic area that requires increased caution, perfect interaction between both partners, and constant communication.
With that sweet idea of trying it, it's just the beginning. Here, nothing can be broken or done without the other person's permission.
The risk of injury, as well as the transmission of infections or just dirt, is higher, so a condom will definitely be in play even for stable couples. Ultimately, it is more hygienic, and after using a condom and taking it off, you can then move on to the vagina without further cleaning.
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FAQ: Frequently Asked Questions About Anal Sex
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What exactly is anal sex?
Anal sex is sexual intercourse performed into the anus of a partner. Approximately 45% of heterosexual couples have tried anal sex, and about 20% engage in this form of bed play regularly.
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Is anal sex safe?
In some cases, complications associated with anal sex can occur, such as anal abscess. However, such situations only occur in cases of insufficient hygiene, carelessness or reduced attention. It is enough to follow basic rules such as sufficient lubrication, caution and perception of the partner. In such a situation, anal sex is a safe practice.
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Anal sex with or without a condom?
Anal sex carries a risk of transmitting sexually transmitted diseases. If you want to be 100% sure that no type of disease will be transmitted, use a condom for this practice. If you have anal sex with a long-term partner in an intimate relationship without changing partners, you can enjoy anal sex without a condom without fear of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. However, if you enjoy a sex life with multiple partners, we strongly recommend using a condom.
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Is it possible to have anal sex during pregnancy?
It is not always recommended to have anal sex during pregnancy.
Experts do not recommend anal sex during pregnancy – mainly because it carries a risk of transmitting infection from the anal opening to the vaginal opening. So if you love anal sex and can't help yourself even during pregnancy, be very careful to have your partner stay only in the anal opening. A slower pace will help, at which the risk of slipping out and being inserted into another hole is lower.
Other problems can be caused by hemorrhoids, which often accompany pregnancy – anal sex can cause them to bleed painfully. Avoid this practice in the following cases: If you suffer from hemorrhoids or anal fissures, if you have placenta previa or if you or your partner have been diagnosed with any sexually transmitted infection.
So the advice is: we do not recommend anal sex during pregnancy, but many women enjoy it carefree and with pleasure, so if you go for it, be careful.
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Can you get pregnant from anal sex?
You can't get pregnant from anal sex. You can only get pregnant if the semen is inserted into the vagina. However, it is possible for your partner's penis to slip out during anal sex and enter the vagina. If ejaculation occurs, the woman can get pregnant, so be careful.
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Does anal sex hurt?
Again, it depends on your partner. Anal sex may not be pleasant at first. Some people can't even imagine anal sex, others can't imagine life without it. However, with the right lubrication, caution, time and patience, you will soon be able to enjoy painless and very pleasant anal sex.
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How to achieve anal orgasm?
Orgasm is an intense physical pleasure, and you can achieve it in many ways. Penetrating the ass, whether with a penis or a vibrator, is one of them. The area around and inside the anus contains a lot of nerve endings, and there is a wall between the vagina and the anus that connects the pleasure points:
- the clitoris, which extends deeper into the abdominal wall
- and the G-spot.
You can also stimulate these areas anally. By stimulating a certain spot in the anus that is rich in nerve endings. This spot is known as the A-spot and is located where the vagina and anus are connected by a very sensitive wall. This spot is called the vaginal vault and by stimulating it, you can achieve an anal orgasm.
It sounds complicated, but it's simple - you start with small butt plugs, gradually adding more and finally letting your partner penetrate you. Watch how your body reacts and gradually work your way up to a wonderful anal orgasm.
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How to persuade your partner to have anal sex?
If someone doesn't feel like having anal sex, don't try to talk them into it. Fear, aversion, or other negative feelings can result in a painful or otherwise unpleasant experience. Instead, give your partner the opportunity to try only gentle stimulation in the anal area. They may experience pleasant sensations and their opinion of this practice will change over time.
Start carefully and together you will gradually discover what each person likes and what they don't like. Hygiene is important, because many women feel unclean from anal sex - you can dispel these fears by following simple hygiene. If you want to be 100% sure that there will be no accident, reach for an enema or anal shower.
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I would like to do it, but my partner doesn't want to?
Although women usually disagree, sometimes it's the other way around. Men are usually afraid of getting dirty or find it inappropriate. Give him time to explore your hole with his curious fingers or the tip of his penis. And use a condom for the action, cleanliness is guaranteed. Or let him try toys, play with the entire area he likes and do you good with an elegant toy, like a glass one
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How often can I have anal sex? Won't my sphincter relax?
After anal sex, you may feel "more freedom" in the butt area for a few hours. Practicing Kegel exercises is definitely a good idea when you feel like it's taking longer. Anal sex is more of a treat for special occasions, it probably won't be right for everyday long sex.
